How to Stop Spiritual Warfare
Jun 30, 2026Summary
Have you ever wondered how to stop spiritual attacks when a sudden wave of chaos breaks out right in the middle of your living room? When the emotional volume spikes and your kids are completely dysregulated, you do not need abstract advice. You need an immediate, actionable crisis management protocol to shut the darkness down right now!
In this episode of the Arise Women of God podcast, host Tamara K. Anderson is joined by mother, coach, and educator LeMira Wheelwright. Together, they reveal an absolute shield for the heat of battle. LeMira shares a masterclass in crisis management, adapting five proven educational de-escalation strategies for your home. You will learn why yelling "stop" actually accelerates a crisis, how to use a "classroom call reset," and how to maintain a "proximity defense" during a teenage meltdown.
We also look at Mark 4:39 to see how Jesus Christ handled a furious tempest. He didn't scream at the wind; He commanded it with absolute authority. Discover how to retrain your human reactions, regulate your own heart, and bring that exact "peace, be still" authority into your household. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your family's peace, cast out the adversary, and execute a scriptural counter-attack today!
Episode Takeaways
- The Classroom Call Reset: Yelling "stop" only revs up the limbic system and accelerates a crisis. Instead, use a quiet redirection or a predetermined "family huddle" phrase to break the enemy's momentum.
- Five De-Escalation Strategies: When a child is dysregulated, follow these five steps: remain calm (do your own "ocean breeze"), change the setting, respect their space while staying in proximity, listen without criticizing, and empathize before strategizing the next steps. Key tip: Inviting Jesus to be a part of each ste.p
- The Proximity Defense: When your child is isolating or melting down, do not leave them alone. Stay near them and remind them you are on their team, acting as a "lioness at the gates" to safeguard their environment.
- Peace, Be Still: Just as Jesus Christ rebuked the storm in Mark 4, mothers are called to bring that same spiritual authority into their homes. You do not have to match the chaos to conquer it.
LeMira's 5-Step De-Escalation Protocol
The Ultimate Prerequisite: Partner with Jesus Christ Before you jump in to manage a meltdown/spiritual attack, and continuously throughout every step below, explicitly invite Jesus Christ into the crisis. Pray fervently in your heart for the Holy Spirit to guide your words, cast out the darkness, and help you bring His "peace, be still" authority into the room. Let Him be the anchor that helps you navigate the storm!
- Remain Calm You must secure a safe space by managing your own reactions first. Take a deep breath (do your own "ocean breeze"), lower your voice, speak slowly, and take a physical step back. Your goal is to remain steady so your child can eventually come down and match your calm tone.
- Change the Setting Move the dysregulated child to a new environment to break the momentum of the crisis. If a device is causing the issue, safely remove it. Guide them to a designated "safe space" to calm down, like their bedroom, a cozy chair, or your room.
- Respect Their Space Do not reach in, grab, or force physical contact, but absolutely do not march out of the house in frustration! Stay nearby in close proximity and simply say, "I am here when you are ready." Make it crystal clear that you are on their team.
- Listen and Validate A meltdown is not the time to parent, punish, criticize, or shame. Let them completely process their heavy emotions while you simply listen. Try asking, "Tell me about that," and validate them by saying, "Thank you for sharing that with me."
- Empathize and Strategize Deeply empathize with their feelings by saying, "Wow, I know what that's like. That is so hard." Wait until they have completely calmed down and re-regulated their nervous system before you begin to strategize the next steps, boundaries, or consequences together.
Free Resource
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Reflection Questions
- What is your initial human reaction when a sudden crisis or emotional meltdown hits your living room?
- How can you implement a "classroom call reset" or a quiet redirection word for your family before the next storm hits?
- Look at the five de-escalation steps. Which step (remaining calm, changing the setting, respecting space, listening, or empathizing) do you find the most difficult to practice in the heat of the moment?
Host & Guest
Tamara K. Anderson @tamarakanderson
LeMira Wheelwright @lemira.wheelwright
Transcript
Tamara K. Anderson
00:00:01.200 - 00:02:43.390
Hey, my friend, have you ever wondered how to stop a spiritual attack? Maybe because an unexpected wave of sudden chaos has broken out right in the middle of your living room. Oh, my friend, I feel you on this.
Because when the emotional volume spikes, you don't want any just abstract advice. You need an immediate crisis management protocol to shut the darkness down. Right now. Take heart. You are in the right place.
And by the end of today's episode, you will know how to launch a 60 second emergency reset, the five concrete de escalation steps used by educators, and how to prayerfully execute a scriptural counter attack to reclaim your family's peace. Stay tuned. Ordinary women, extraordinary faith. When God calls, we say yes. Hello and welcome back to the Arise Women of God podcast.
I'm your host, Tamara K. Anderson, and today I'm joined by a mother, coach and educator, Lamyra Wheelwright, to answer a desperate cry heard by mothers everywhere. How do I stop these spiritual attacks? But to give you an absolute shield in the heat of battle, we are giving you a three step vital strategy today.
First, the classroom call reset. Why? Actually yelling stop accelerates a crisis. And how to use quiet redirection to break the enemy's momentum.
Second, we'll tackle the five front de escalation protocol. And third, the proximity defense.
A raw real life story of a teenager having a meltdown, showing how to navigate isolation, text message warfare and late night crisis scenarios. But let's kick it off by looking at scripture.
In Mark, chapter 4, verse 39, we read about when a furious tempest threatened to capsize the boat that the Savior and his disciples were on. Jesus didn't scream back at the wind, the text says, and he arose and rebuked the wind and said unto the sea, peace be still.
And the wind ceased and there was a great calm. As mothers, we are called to bring that exact peace be still authority into our homes when our families are completely dysregulated.
But we do it with Jesus standing beside us. Now Lamyra is going to share how stopping an active attack requires us to completely retrain our initial human reactions.
LeMira Wheelwright
00:02:43.790 - 00:04:07.540
And so some things that I've learned as a school teacher and I've had to learn at home is first you have to acknowledge that it's off, that something's not right. We call it dysregulation. It's not in balance. And the thing you gotta do first is you gotta reset the room. And my yelling stop is not the best way.
But I was thinking every teacher has a classroom call. So an example is if you say one Two, three, eyes on me. And they say, one, two, eyes on you. Classic is give me five.
And the kids know as you count down to five, they need to get back in their seats. Voices off, sitting quietly. Everything has it. I mean, in basketball is I need a timeout. So the coaches do a huddle.
Marvel movies, it's Avengers Assemble. So, like, come up with something in a family where we need to have, like, family huddle, family freeze, timeout.
But something that you decide on as a family.
But the thing to remember, unless somebody's in danger, like, verbally or physically, do not yell and scream, because as we know, that just is going to rev up our limbic system and fight or flight. And we're going to rev. And so one of our great strategies is to remain calm.
As a teacher, you always use a redirection, and it could be getting your voice really quiet like this. Okay, guys, I need your attention. Bust out into song. I don't know, my kids. You just have to find some way to switch it up.
Tamara K. Anderson
00:04:07.780 - 00:04:21.229
One of the keys I love about this idea is making a plan before everything falls apart. Now watch as Lamyra explains five educational strategies to help a mother navigate a battle.
LeMira Wheelwright
00:04:21.469 - 00:05:09.700
I'm going to. It's five to six. De escalation strategies.
This is what we use in education, because sometimes in a classroom or in a home where somebody is just completely flipped, you cannot talk to them. So the first step is to remain calm because we've got to keep a safe space. As moms, as parents, this is our job.
We had a kindergarten teacher that she would say ocean breeze, and all the kids would go, shh. So before you jump in there to de escalate a situation, do your own ocean breeze and go. And calm and go. We're going to use a lower voice.
We're going to speak slowly because it's a little more soothing. Take a step back. Hey, I'm here. Let me help you. Because you want them to come down and match your tone.
Tamara K. Anderson
00:05:10.070 - 00:05:29.110
If you have a hard time remaining calm, pray right now and tell God you need help with this and to remind you to turn to him in a moment of crisis. Then when you are in that moment, say a fervent prayer to God for help to cast out the darkness and bring in light, calling on angelic help.
LeMira Wheelwright
00:05:29.190 - 00:07:15.690
Okay? The second thing is change the setting. You need to move them. Like, if they.
If they really are fighting or they're on their phone and something's happening on the phone, you got to take that away. Or go to a safe space. Where they can calm down. Maybe it's their room. Maybe you have a place in your house. Like, we have our music room.
It's got a comfy couch and they can go and sit there sometimes. It's my room. Go sit on my couch in my room. So you got to change it up. Okay. The third one is you got to respect their space.
So you're not going to reach in and touch and grab them, but you are going to stay near. So if they go into their room and they're there, you say, hey, I'm here when you're ready. You're not marching out the house. You're not leaving.
I'm so done. You are in proximity. They need to know that you are still on their team. It's not mom against kid. It's mom with kid.
The fourth thing is you're going to listen. You're going to do a lot of listening and validating. This is not the time to criticize them, what they're doing, what they did wrong.
You're not going to give them a punishment. You're not going to parent. You're not going to shame them. You're just going to listen. I understand you feel angry.
Tell me about that and let them tell you about it. And you say, wow, thanks for sharing that with me. But don't say, wow, you could have said something different. Are you sure that was everything?
Like, sometimes I'll say, well, what happened before that? Because I want them to take accountability, but really I'm listening because they're processing their emotion.
And then the fifth one is, I empathize with them. And that's where I said, I validate. Wow, that's hard. And then as they get calm and you've helped them de escalate from being, like, exploding.
So, okay, I'm coming down. I'm calming down.
Then we strategize what we're going to do next, and then I'm going to include and then seek God in all of that, and he will help you know what to say and what to do.
Tamara K. Anderson
00:07:15.850 - 00:07:31.050
These five steps are a masterclass in crisis management. Listen as Lamyra shares a raw, moving personal story of stepping out into a street to rescue her own teenager from a sudden, heavy, spiritual ambush.
LeMira Wheelwright
00:07:31.960 - 00:10:41.510
This recently happened to me as a mom. I suddenly hear one of my kids outside yelling. So I go out there, and here's my teenager running and crying and screaming. I'm not good enough.
I don't deserve parents like you. I should just go to a mental hospital. Okay, so I'm Going back to learning about how I recognize spiritual warfare for me.
And I'm like, okay, we've got a lot of shaming going on. My first reaction to mom is like, we're in the middle of the street, and you're in front of our neighbor's house. Stop. I'm so embarrassed.
And I wanted to say, just stay calm, Stay calm, stay calm. Stop it. Let's go inside. Let's go inside. But what I do. Okay, I'm here. I'm here. What's going on? Okay, let's get. Let's get inside. You're safe.
I love you. Me. Can you come with me?
And I realized right away that the issue was something that happened on their phone, because that was the only thing they had. And they're using phrases that I have not heard them use. And I said, okay, where's your phone? It's over there in the grass somewhere.
And I'm like, okay, let's get you inside. The kid goes in, and they barricade themselves in my office. And immediately I'm in my room going through the phone, figuring out what's happened.
But I realize I'm nervous because this kid has isolated themselves. So after a minute or two, I'm like, okay, I'm here for you. And then I hear them leave, and I'm like, wait, where'd they go?
They went upstairs to the room. And I went up to the room, and I follow them, and they had crawled in bed. I said, can I come in and sit by you?
And at first they're like, no, I don't want your mom. I'm just going to go to bed. And I said, no, I'm here for you. We need to talk about this.
And I had gone through and already evaluated what had happened. And then I let them talk. But I also said, wow, it sure seems like you felt misunderstood.
And then they started to tell me what they felt, and I just listened. I said, wow, I know what that's like. That's so hard. I'm so sorry that that's happened to you. And after a little bit, they were able to sit up.
I was able to hug them, tell them how much I love them, and that we're going to work through this. And we talked, and I said, okay, we're going to take the phone away for a little while because I think this was so traumatic for you.
We need to have a few days break from it. And it's not because you're in trouble. It's for your protection. So we strategized that.
And here's the amazing thing, is that in a couple, two to three days, I, I could give the phone back. But I had gone through the phone. I had done some safeguarding. Lioness at the gates.
Protecting my kiddo at first, until we made sure that they were safe mentally, emotionally, spiritually.
The other amazing thing that happened is later that evening when it's time for bed and all of the scaries start coming into our minds because we're reliving, rehashing the emotions, I was able to ask my kiddo, I said, hey, would you like us to say a prayer with you? And they said, yes. And my husband said the prayer. And my kiddo immediately goes, you know, when, when dad said this specific phrase, I felt peace.
I felt the anxiety go away. So we, we include God in that de escalation. We do all of this.
And you need to know, while I am doing all of that stuff in real time with this kid, I'm literally praying the entire time, okay, help me, help me, help me. What do I say? What do I do? But my job was to get in there and to get Satan out of my kid's head. Nope. We're stopping that.
Tamara K. Anderson
00:10:42.330 - 00:11:59.130
So, my friend, the next time a storm hits your living room, remember you do not have to match the chaos to conquer it. You have the spiritual authority to step back, regulate your own heart and command the wind and the waves of your household to be still.
In the name of Jesus Christ. You are a guardian of the home and you now have the tools to stop the attack.
To help you seamlessly implement Lamira's framework and build a step by step emergency crisis roadmap for your household, we would love to get our A Mother's Spiritual Defense Guide 6 Empowering Steps to fortify home and family into your hands for free. By clicking the link below when you download your manual, immediately turn to step number four. Cast out and calm down.
There you'll find the exact prayer to help you cast out the adversary in a moment of crisis and vocally refill a room with light the moment darkness is evicted. Stand firm, my sister. With Jesus beside you, nothing is impossible. And until next time, may you arise. Do it God's way. God strong.
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